Why is it so damn hard to attract girls these days? It feels like they have an upper hand when it comes to dating and they can just have their wicked way with us, whenever they want. A woman can quite honestly roll into any bar, pick out a guy they like and take him home… for a guy however, it’s very different.
We need to do most of the work, try and think of funny things to say and impress her in some way so that SHE can be the one who decides on whether we get laid or not. Absolute madness.
Understanding exactly how to attract women seriously isn’t as hard as some guys make it out to be. It requires you to work on specific areas that are proven to boost your attractiveness such as style, confidence and banter.
When you see a man who knows exactly what he’s doing with a woman from the moment he meets her, it’s very impressive. However for most guys it feels like another language and women just seem to be on a completely different wave length.
So today I want to give you a rundown of how you can attract more women just by working on the 6 areas of attraction every guy needs. Once you have these covered, you’ll see a noticeable change in the way women talk to you.
They’ll be more flirty and sometimes even approach you, so don’t take these tips lightly… get stuck in and demolish them!
Create unrelenting confidence
It all starts with confidence. Women love men with oodles of self esteem, but many guys seem to confuse this with arrogance, which makes you look like a douche.
The right amount of self confidence can create an immense level of attraction with any woman, because they just find it irresistible. It shows you are comfortable with who you are, you’re happy in your skin and you’re ready for anything.
The best way to boost your confidence is by trying new experiences that push your comfort zone, like actually approaching women, or doing an open mic night at a comedy club… maybe even attending a meet up group to help refine your social skills.
Become more dominant
Aside from your self esteem, the number one thing that attracts girls more than anything is… dominance. It’s hard wired in every woman to feel drawn towards men with naturally dominant personalities, this is why you see so many bad boys dating fine looking women. They can’t help themselves.
This doesn’t mean that you need to start smashing glass bottles over people’s heads at the bar, it just means you need to toughen up a bit, by being more decisive and leading a woman without asking for her permission.
A lot of guys tend to read into the whole dominant thing too much and believe that women shouldn’t be “told” what to do. I’m not saying that, what I’m saying you should do is be more authoritative with your actions and words, so that women are more likely to follow.
Women naturally look for security and feel as though they need a guy to look after them, it’s how society has evolved over time. Dominance shows you are a leader, that doesn’t take any sh*t, which is very attractive.
Freshen up your style
Guys have no idea about style and clearly don’t full grasp the importance of it when it comes to picking up women. They seem to think a pair of comfy fitting jeans, baggy t-shirt and trainers are perfectly fine, when in actual fact they ruin first impressions with a woman and kill any level of physical attraction.
Also, it’s not hard to create a style that works for you, start with the basics and begin adding or removing items from there. Smart shoes, slim fitting jeans, slim fitting shirt and a leather jacket is a great start and one of many classic styles you can go for.
It’s important to match clothes and a particular style with your personality. What I mean by that is, if you’re a naturally shy and introverted guy, bright colours won’t sit well with you, you need to go for the classic cool looks. If you’re outgoing and enjoy socialsing, then accessories like bracelets and quirky glasses are a good shout.
Try and have some fun with fashion, it’s much easier than you think.
Throw yourself into situations
Are you a risk taker? If not, then you should be. It’s obvious that the more risks you take in life (and especially with women) the more experiences you will have, usually more positive than negative. Either way, you’ll be learning and broadening your mind.
Let’s say for example, you are waiting in line with your friend in a popular coffee shop and you spot a cute girl just in front of you, thinking about what she’d like to order.
What do you do?
A. Say something like “Hey, I know this is a little random, but I just wanted to say I think you have a cool style… are you Swedish?”.
B. Do nothing, wait for your chance to order a coffee and then leave with your friend.
The answer should be “A” without a doubt. If you like the look of her, what the hell do you have to lose? Nothing, that’s what. She can’t say anything other than thanks and give you a smile, which then leads you onto a conversation whilst waiting for your coffee.
So take more risks with women, not only will this improve your confidence by giving you an endorphin rush, but it will help you practice your conversational skills. You’ll be surprised at how good you can get within a few days.
Develop magnetic humour and wit
If you ask a woman what they want most in a man (consciously that is, because we know that dominance is a big deal sub consciously) they would say humour. They always want someone who can make them laugh, has quirky banter and unshakable wit.
Why? Because it’s fun, exciting and helps them escape. In terms of natural selection, humour doesn’t really make much sense, but it just makes women feel very comfortable around you and can really make a big difference in your game.
But what if you’re not naturally funny? Well, like anything in life it can be learnt… grab a comedy writing book, attend an improvisation comedy course and learn how to tell a humorous story.
Work on your physique
Now I’ve left this topic last for a reason, it’s definitely an attraction booster, but it’s really not as big of a deal as some people make it out to be. You don’t need to have an Adonis physique to get laid… although it does help.
For example, you could easily build more attraction with a woman as an overweight guy who’s balding, than a guy with a ripped shiny torso and a full head of hair – just by being funnier, more confident and showing some form of dominance.
Having said that, we all know that there is an element of physical attraction, us guys want to rip a woman’s clothes off when it comes to a bit of nookie… women want the same thing, regardless of what they might tell you.
Now you don’t have to look like Mr Schwarzenegger for her to go crazy over you, all you need is a lean body. This shows you keep yourself fit and in shape, which again adds to the overall package.
Create a work out plan for yourself which you follow every day, a few days a week. Use split workouts to target all areas of the body and try to eat healthier foods on a daily basis so you burn fat and keep trim. This should be enough to see a significant physical change.
So there you have it, 6 crucial areas you must work on if you want to attract women effortlessly. Anything else you think needs adding?