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How Should I Deal With Rejection By Women?

Ok, so not every single woman you approach is going to welcome you with open arms.

There may be a few who are cold or rude to you and this is due to what has been dubbed: the “bitch shield”.

This is a term used to describe a defensive behaviour adopted by women who are sick of being approached (badly) by guys trying who are obviously to pick them up. The response could be almost anything, a common one is “oh, I have a boyfriend” or the worst case scenario where she tells you to “f*** off!”

So what do you do in this situation? Quite simply, you must retain your composure and never ever resort to being rude or disrespectful back. If you react to her rudeness in any way, you will just become another forgettable guy in the crowd who tried to pick her up.

On the other hand if you reply in a cocky/funny manner you will immediately become “different” to all the other guys who have failed and you will look confident, funny and interesting. If she is still being a bitch after this, then it is best just to move on, she may have issues that you are not going to be able to break through.

Responses to Her Objections

Just for you, here are some ever so witty responses that you can use in such scenarios:

Her: I have a boyfriend.

You: Just one? That’s nothing to feel insecure about. Here’s what we’re going to do. You stick with me and I’m going to find you some more boyfriends. Take a look around, you see anybody cute in this place?

Her: I have a boyfriend.

You: Good for you… I know it is a HUGE deal to you, but it’s actually pretty common, so you might not want to keep telling everyone you talk to.

Her: I have a boyfriend.

You: I have only just met you and you are already telling me your problems.

Her: Go away (or words to that effect).

You: You don’t get out much do you?

A few more rules

We’re almost done with the Approaching theory but just a few more rules that you need to know:

  1. Never ever buy her a drink when you approach. You don’t have to pay to get her attention.
  2. Stay clear of the usual boring questions like: what’s your name, what do you do for a living, or where are you from. She gets this from all the other guys she meets.
  3. Don’t be afraid to approach her just because there are men in the group. Often, you’ll discover that she’s with family, friends, or work colleagues.
  4. If you do approach a group, don’t just focus all your attention on her. Remember that if you win her friends over, you’ll win her too. A woman values her friend’s opinions more than just about anything else in the world. So, give her friends lots of attention and get everyone laughing.
  5. As discussed in a previous article always incorporate a time constraint into your routine e.g. “I can only stay for a minute, as I have to get back to my friends over there”.
  6. Never open a conversation by apologising. Phrases like “Excuse me”, “Pardon me“ and “I’m sorry, but”, make you sound like a coward or beggar.
  7. Never make comments about a woman’s weight or any other subject that you think she may feel self-conscious about.

Some Exercises

1. Walk up to a girl you find attractive and use this opener:

“Hey, I need your opinion on something…. I am going on a blind date with a girl at the weekend and I am very nervous about it. Are there any tips you can give me so I don’ t look like an idiot?”

2. A good exercise for practising your eye contact is to look directly at every woman you see. Walk into every store, and look directly into the eyes of every single woman you encounter and don’t look away until she does!

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